Let’s Rediscover Tolerance

We all need to move greater tolerance and more respectful listening to others into higher priority status in our lives. How many people are as happy as they used to be or want to be? We have way too much negative information driving us apart and making us angry, thanks to some of the new communication systems and the agendas of those who own and run them.

We need to be more open to people we don’t agree with and have greater tolerance for their comments. We need to listen and try to understand that these are the other person’s opinions, not our own. Attitude alone can do more for tolerance than anything else.


If we do something good every day, even just a giving a smile or calling someone who needs support, we will become better, more tolerant, and happier people for doing it.

Lets look first for the good in each other. Lincoln said. “I hate that guy, I need to get to know him better.”

It works for me! I have found that when I made the effort to get to know someone on a personal basis who I thought I didn’t like, I found that we had more in common than not, and the dislike went away. Family’s always a good place to practice tolerance and listening. Pick someone you know in your family who you dislike for their ideas or opinions and try suggesting that you both need sit down and get to know each other better – because you’re family.


Our Warmest Holiday Wishes For All

At this time we are thinking of all the good people in this world, and all the good work that is being done, and we wish everyone a joyful and blessed holiday season and a safe and healthy new year.

A House Divided Against Itself Cannot Stand

So much in life revolves around attitude.  And only we are responsible for our attitudes.  The world presents us with situations.  But it’s our choice.   We choose how we will react to it.  No one else makes that choice for us.

In a time when so many are certain that our country is divided, I think we need to take a closer look at ourselves.  If this country is truly divided, then it is our own fault.  We have no one to blame other than ourselves for allowing ourselves to react the way that we are.

The world is never going to agree on everything.  That is what makes it so beautiful.  If we were all the same there would be no uniqueness and life would be boring.  So, why is it so hard for us to not accept others for who they are?  We need to embrace our uniqueness.

The great thing about attitude is that you can always change it.  It’s never too late.  In a constantly evolving world that continues to become more and more enlightened, we always have the ability to change things.

One of my favorite presidential quotes is from Abraham Lincoln: “I don’t like that man.  I must get to know him better.”  Imagine how much less hate and violence there would be in the world if more people adopted that mind set?  If we took the time to learn about someone rather than cast hate toward them because we don’t like them or what we think they believe, or we don’t understand them.

It seems fitting that perhaps we should reflect on what our country’s great leaders have told us.  The following quotes are some of my favorites:

“To be good, and to do good, is all we have to do.”
~ John Adams

“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month.”
~ Theodore Roosevelt

“Pessimism never won any battle.”
~ Dwight D. Eisenhower

Click “Presidential Quotes” to view the inspirational quotes from all 45 of our presidents.

MLK Had The Answer

He knew hate only divided a society and that’s what those who are using hate are trying to do.

Let’s all think, really think about why we hate something or someone and we might surprise ourselves.

That what leaders and dividers want you to do.

Anti-Semitism Is Just Wrong

The no hate no violence movement is against hate or violence directed against any religion, gender, race, or any of the other things that people find as an excuse to hate something or someone. We believe in ideas that bring us together not tear us apart.

The anti-Semitism in this country and around the world is an historical issue for the Jewish community. It is wrong and hateful, but it is there, and there are historical reasons why it is so persistent.

Among other reasons, the Jewish community is not known for being inclusive, but they don’t seem to take the heat about it like the Mormon church does for being the same way. Because if you’re not a Mormon you don’t hang out or do business with people that are. That being said, we all need to do what we can to help Jewish people who really do want to stand up and speak out against anti-Semitism. Many don’t speak out fully enough oppose anti-Semitism. They need to speak up and put down the activists that are anti-Semitic.

They need to help go after anti-Semitism by joining with other non-Jewish people that have like-minded beliefs in fighting anti-Semitism and in no hate no violence.  We would love to work with and help the Jewish community in any way we can to fight anti-Semitic hate and violence because that’s how we see it.

Anti-Semitism is definitely a racial hate crime against a specific group of people. Many people say they are a race as much as they are a religion and that is a problem. They need to allow a lot more non-Jewish people into their religion and get more diversified, that would help them mitigate the situation, and so would helping more people that maybe aren’t Jewish that are that need help.

You know, the Catholic Church is probably the most beat up of all of the Christian religions these days because they’ve had some real issues with how they’ve managed their church. But the thing that salvages Catholicism is they’re the largest charity helping everybody in the world regardless of their religious background. They’re bigger than the next three religions put together, and it is hard for people to fight against those kinds of philanthropic commitments.

I would say to any religion – open up your hearts to other people to other faiths and other races. Don’t demand they believe the way you do – show them why they should. The more that that’s done, they will be accepted; the more you try and keep a religion exclusive and closed, the harder it is to fit into a melting pot. The Christian religion is pretty much a melting pot and the Catholic religion is especially a huge melting pot. Those are the things we believe the Jewish religion can learn from. They seem to have some pretty good management available.

We just want to say that we’re here to help. What can we do to help oppose the anti-Semitic movement? How can no the hate no violence organization help you go after and expose misinformation that the anti-Semites are putting out there? Every religion has a history we need to learn from and play down what was done by others generations ago. Maybe it’s time to play down the negative history.

I mean we’re still talking about slavery and how many generations ago is that? People are not being exposed for the hypocrites that they are. I do not like being called a racist because I’m not one, but I’m called one because I’m white. That’s pretty crazy and I’m gonna fight that till the day I die. I am not a racist. America is less racist today than it’s ever been since slavery. But the activists will never let you think that. The politicians use “racism” to answer any question with no facts to back up the answer. They say you’re racist, you’re racist if you don’t agree with them. That’s crazy.

We all need to speak out and especially the Jewish community needs help to speak out. The Democrats are experts at saying one thing while doing the complete opposite. I’m not saying we should do that, but I’m certainly saying we should take all these other organizations and unite them to fight these things and expose them. So, an individual Jewish person exposing an anti-Semitic situation might get somewhat discounted. but if there is a national organization that goes after that anti-Semitism and exposes the perpetrators for the haters they really are then an awful lot of anti-Semitism will be diminished. I can assure you that every one of those anti-Semites lives in a glass house and they have done some things that could be exposed and opposed on an individual level but it won’t have near the clout than if they’re exposed by a national organization.

At Nohatenoviolence.com we’re a small group, but we are a good one to take on any issue without taking very much pushback because of who we are. We’re here to help any victims of hate and violence – please let us know how we can help you


We each have the ability to lift the burden of hate from ourselves and lead simpler, calmer, happier lives. It can be done by anyone, any time, because hate is a choice caused by an anger and anger is usually caused by fear.

When you or I hate something or somebody isn’t that usually out of fear on some level? Maybe you didn’t like what somebody said to you and maybe it was outside your comfort zone –

but do you really want to hate them for it?

We’ve come way too far into the like-mindedness – meaning if we’re not like minded then I don’t want to hang out with you. That doesn’t sound like a very fun life to me, hanging out only with people who think exactly like I do, or the reverse – with those who try to control what I think or do. I admit I don’t like to hang out with people that are going totally a different direction than me, but if they just have a different opinion, or belong to a different political party, then let’s talk!

I have plenty of Republican, Democrat and Independent friends who are all pretty close together in they’re thinking, but none are politicians trying to stay in office. We can all get a little excited talking about paying higher taxes or lowering government spending – I mean those are political arguments, but it’s not about “OMG – I hate you! You think too differently from me so I don’t want to be your friend no matter how good of person you may be. It doesn’t matter”. That’s what hate can do even among friends.

I believe firmly that 90% of people in this country are more like minded than not. That’s why the “R Word” makes me upset because it gets tossed around so loosely. It’s kind of a “one-use I am an older, size-fits-all” put-down, often used when someone can’t answer the question or has no facts, and so they call what they disagree with “Racist”.

I can’t tell you how many times people have simply assumed I am racist because I fit their stereotyped image – I’m an older, conservative, well-groomed and well-dressed White guy.

Well, guess what the stereotype is?

I understand what Black people mean when talk about how they feel when White people see them coming down the sidewalk and cross the street – clearly afraid of all Black people. I’ve been judged that same way, and I can understand the hurt and resentment at the unfairness because I feel it too. I actually do hate the “R Word” and believe that it should be eliminated from intelligent discourse just like the “N Word”.

We have the power individually and collectively to mitigate and reduce hate in everything we do. If you just sit back and say okay, I hate this thing, I hate this person, I hate this party – try to analyze what’s going on, think about it and work on “why”. There’s a lot of difference in the attitude behind “I hate what’s going on” rather than “I disagree with what’s going on”. An attitude that allows thoughts and emotions to rise to the level of hate overcomes your whole personality. A person who is heavy with hate cannot be serene, they cannot have a happy life, and they are generally very much alone in the world.

You don’t see people that are helping others like the poor and the homeless and sick spend their time and energy hating others – they don’t have time to waste on such unproductive emotions. I’ve noticed in a general way that people who hate others don’t ever seem to have anything meaningful to do with their own lives. Maybe it’s just that simple.

Stop Hating & Help Somebody

Free Near-Death Experiences Book For Our Subscribers

Here at No Hate No Violence Press we’re excited to have published our newest book “Answers To: Where Do We Go From Here? Planning Confidently For The Next Life”, and we want you as our valued subscriber to have priority access to this groundbreaking publication for free.

A great short read, “Answers” offers dozens of fascinating and inspiring first-person stories of Near-Death Experiences. Every chapter features published clinical research along with personal reports of an existence beyond this life discovered by people who have died and then returned to life, often bringing with them detailed and sometimes fully verifiable experiences. The book covers every kind of human experience that brings people to death’s door including heart attacks, car accidents, terminal diseases, violence and murder, and suicide.

Whether you believe in the reality of Near-Death Experiences or not, everybody we hear from are people whose lives have been permanently and positively changed by having an NDE. Readers have written and called to tell us their stories, and we’re in awe at the depth of their new understanding. We didn’t realize how close NDEs are to the experience of finding faith in God, but we’ve now heard enough stories and seen enough impact on the lives of people to believe that this is a very real experience for them, and who’s to say it’s not?

One of the most profoundly moving chapters chronicles the experiences of Veterans who have committed suicide and then, often miraculously, returned from death. We believe in the author’s vision so deeply that we’ve made this chapter into our newest YouTube video. We hope this video will inspire viewers with thoughts and visions of the immense value of human life.

The changes that people make in their lives after a Near Death Experience (NDE) are often breathtaking  click here to watch, listen and hear for yourself!

This video reveals through narration and visual imagery the experiences of people who have committed suicide and then been met and urged to go back by long-lost friends and family on the other side. The stories told by these fortunate people who have been given a second chance are inspiring even for those of us who may never have contemplated the tragic, senseless act of suicide or its true consequences.

After you watch the YouTube video, we’ve arranged with Smashwords, a major international distributor, to make the full digital edition with dozens of hyperlinks to Near Death Experience research and stories available to you free – click here to get this free groundbreaking book!

We would also like to announce an exciting new way to experience this inspiring evidence of the afterlife. We’ve worked with renowned narrator & voice actor Tim Little, whose voice has inspired millions of audiobook fans, and who has narrated our new YouTube video, to produce a full audiobook edition of “Answers To: Where Do We Go From Here?”. We created the audio edition with the needs of hospice and nursing home patients especially in mind, and we’ve been told by families that the book had a deep impact on their loved one’s last days.

After you order your free E-book we urge you to please pass this offer on to your friends and family, especially if you know someone who might benefit from this book right now in these troubled times. Please don’t hesitate to share this with your Facebook and Twitter friends too!

We’re so committed to helping others in deep spiritual and emotional need that we want to give away a million copies, and that will take time and money. Can you help with a donation? Our costs so far run around 10 cents a book so a donation of $10 goes a long way. Thank you, and …

Let’s Enjoy Life Together. Pass It On!

Patrick Lockhart

Founder and CEO: No Hate No Violence Press

The Cruelty Of Domestic Violence

This short article “The Particular Cruelty of Domestic Violence” (CLICK HERE) examines the American attitude and policies towards domestic violence.  Seeing how few resources we put towards addressing domestic violence is enlightening and shocking.  We’re aware that domestic violence, especially against women and children, is a major issue in the United States and should be dealt with as a top priority.  Unfortunately, the pandemic has greatly increased domestic violence for reasons that we all understand and don’t need to be discussed here.

We thought we should point out the impact of how few resources are put towards this major issue.  By devoting more and better targeted resources to this issue, we could really help a lot of people, especially single mothers and their children in very abusive spouse/partner relationships.

There are ways to deal with this by getting people to speak out, the victims as well as anybody that sees it – family, neighbors, co-workers, or friends.

This article details the shocking facts of how we deal (or actually don’t deal) with it.

We need more people to speak out for their neighbors and friends because the victims are too afraid to do so, fearful of losing their support or risking further harm.  We need to change the stigma of spousal abuse to make the victims Heroes (with a capital H) for stepping forward,  and we as good neighbors , friends and family need to help them.  Simply throwing money at it won’t solve this serious issue but adequate funding should be a top priority in every community and at the national level as well.




The Earn and Learn Theory Of Life After High School

We are doing research on the Earn and Learn Theory that addresses how a student can begin making early decisions on how he or she will approach their life and education after high school.  We urge parents to think about the options that may be available and attractive to their child for earning a good living while pursuing alternative educational goals and have discussions with them about their future.  It’s important to not wait until their senior year to begin looking at options other than straight-to-college, because if they have a game plan to earn and learn after high school, they can plot their last couple of years of high school in terms of preparing for a different and perhaps more satisfying approach to starting out in life.  For example, if it turns out they may want to learn a skilled trade or intern for a certain kind of business they’re interested in, all this can begin during their last few years of high school if they decide not to take the conventional formal higher education or full-time college route.


We think that it would be of great benefit to students by the end of their sophomore year to participate in a program where they spend a week on Earn or Learn which is college education versus working after graduation.  We’re going to be writing more about it in our World Debating Forum where we plan to debate the issue quite a bit.  If you haven’t visited it yet, please go to WorldDebatingForum.com and take a look at what we’re doing to raise awareness of issues like this.

Here are some ideas we hope parents will share with their kids. When deciding on a career path, be sure you are not pursuing it because it seems like a fun and/or easy thing to do, or peer and teacher pressure.  For example, yes, becoming a social worker is rewarding in many ways, but it’s not high in monetary rewards. A High School student may be idealistic and reject the idea of needing to earn a living, so a loving parent might point out that they can go save the world anywhere on earth if they also have plumbing or nursing skills to earn a living with while they’re there saving the planet.

As a long-time employer I saw many employees that left our company when they got their degrees in social work or psychology or some of those areas, only to have them come back a year later and say, “I can’t work for that little money.  I make so much working here.”  In my case, “here” was the restaurant and hotel industry, and many, many of my employees made six-figure incomes starting from really good salaries and tips then later as manager/owners.  Yes, ideally you should love what you do in life, then it’s not work, but compensation for work is definitely something to be considered, including how to pay for full-time college if it turns out that’s what you really want.



If a child chooses a career path requiring college, but college is a stretch, one option may be to go to work for a company right out of high school.  By getting good grades and showing responsibility, maybe even starting out as a new employee who does night school or online classes, they could wind up working for a company that pays for their college while they, get promoted, and are already earning a good living by the time they graduate with a degree.  What a great way to go to college for free, while advancing your career.

Another option to offset the cost of education is to join the military.  The military will pay for your schooling while you are learning valuable life lessons in responsibility and discipline, character traits that prepare you for life and pay to go to school after your service. It’s important for parents to research the available military options with a child who is interested – only a small % of the military is evert exposed to combat or danger. Many people overlook the Coast Guard, which has a lot of pretty interesting jobs and has full military benefits.

You can earn online degrees from some of the best Universities in the country by going to college online for much less money than attending classes in the traditional way, while you are earning and advancing your career. If you are taking online classes, you can work while you learn and still maintain a lifestyle that allows for travel and other things you enjoy in life.  You will have extra money to do those things if you work part-time and go to school online.  The best part of all this is you would incur less debt, positioning yourself with a head start in life, ahead of those who have run up huge student loans.

Another benefit of taking online college classes is you won’t have to listen to somebody telling you how to think, which is what happens in too many classes.  I could honestly make the case that we have too many colleges.  Unfortunately, universities are really more committed to telling you how to think rather than teaching you how to think for yourself.  This has been propagated by tenure, allowing people to teach who shouldn’t be teaching.

I have relatives whose kids go to math classes in college and they talk about politics half the time.  Really?  That’s what we’re paying for?  I don’t think kids should talk about politics very much until after they’re out of high school, because it’s so emotionally charged, and it’s difficult for them to have a neutral attitude, and not using facts, because facts rarely fit political agendas.  Talking or debating without facts is a bad habit to get into.  But I suppose they’re just imitating a lot of adults they see.


We think that too much emphasis and pressure is put on people about going to college.  I went to college, got several degrees, and I can honestly say none of them helped all that much.  As an employer, I would rather hire a well-rounded kid, a good “B” student (not necessarily straight A student) out of high school and teach them to work for me while they went to school.  Many large companies do just that, offering to pay for college while you work for them.

Imagine – Amazon hires a lot of people right out of high school, and some even spend their last two years of high school working five to ten hours a week working at Amazon in a warehouse, learning about the company, preparing them so that when they graduate from high school, they are literally ready to go to work and make a decent living while finishing their online or night school education at their company’s expense.

Let’s show our kids how to earn and learn.  They need to be educated on how much various careers pay, what’s required degree-wise and how much those degrees will cost in the long run.  Some of the trades pay more than lawyers make.  You don’t have to go to college for most trades, but those trades are sometimes hard to get into because of limitations imposed on the supply side through their unions.

For example, let’s say you went to work for Amazon right after high school, starting at $12 an hour.  Within five years you would easily be making $25 to $40 an hour if you work hard and get promotions.  On the other hand, if you go to college and graduate in any of the social sciences and look at the lifetime income there, it is going to be far less than your lifetime income-earning potential in the business sector.  We all know $30/hour is about $60k/year – right at the US average. Know many good plumbers or electricians or nurses who only make $30/hour? Know any college grads working for less than $30/hour – 10 years after graduation? You would have benefits, including retirement in either job, but another consideration in favor of working for a company like Amazon is the ability to have stock options.

So, we could make the case that if you compared the two years of college, and you didn’t’ care about just going and partying for four years (which is what the social science majors sometimes do), you’ll probably make more by not going to college in the long run.  One must also consider that careers in the social services have income limitations as government employees.  If you work at Amazon, you could leave them in ten years and probably pick up a great job somewhere else or stay with them.  Just do the math.


In summary, I think college education is extremely important for anybody going into certain careers – some business categories, lawyers, doctors, and other specialized fields.  But let’s offer other options to folks who don’t want to go that route.  It’s time to dispel the notion that going into trades is somehow less important or respectable than gaining a college degree.  There are many paths to being successful in life.  We just need to highlight all possible paths for our kids and then let them choose which one to follow knowing we’ve done our best.


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