Our Finger On The Hate Button

The other day, I was in the grocery store wearing my hat (the hat pictured above), and a young employee in their thirties gave me the finger. So, I walked over to him, who was about 20 feet away, and said, “Either you can’t read or you’re very lucky I believe in what this hat represents.” He then apologized and explained that he assumed it represented something else.

That incident made me realize how quickly our “hate button” can be pushed. Instead of instantly hating something, we should question why we feel that way. It’s astonishing to think that people and families now hate each other because of their political beliefs. When you read it, it sounds crazy, but it’s happening. We can attribute this divisiveness to politicians on both sides who perpetuate hate in order to gain support. They encourage us to hate the other side and vote for them. It has become an industry.

The truth is, 80% of Americans, regardless of party affiliation, want to be moderate. However, they allow the extreme left and right to dictate the agenda because they are either misinformed or afraid to speak up. As a Conservative Democrat, I believe our party is particularly guilty of fostering hatred. Abraham Lincoln once said, “I hate that guy, I need to get to know him better,” recognizing the destructive nature of hate. This is especially true for politicians. After all, wars have been waged due to hatred, and no war is ever good. Just look at the mess we’ve created around the world. While World Wars I and II may have had some justification, I am grateful to all the patriots who fought and died in all our wars. I believe their sacrifices will not be in vain because we have given the world a taste of freedom and democracy, which will benefit future generations in those countries. Above all else, I am proud of our military. Without them, we would not be the country that everyone, especially our own politicians, wants to destroy, even though I am a Democrat.

If you only watch news media that aligns with your own views and makes you comfortable, you are not truly watching the news. Instead, you are consuming politically correct commentary that tells you what you want to hear. A significant 72% of people in this country believe that political correctness is a problem. It’s important to express your own thoughts respectfully and gain the respect of others. Also, try watching the news from other channels occasionally. You might actually learn something and realize how similar we are. Most importantly, practice tolerance, as it goes a long way in preventing hatred.

Let’s lighten up and think before we resort to hate. At No Hate No Violence, we know that practicing this will lead to greater happiness and create a better world.

Sincerely,

Pat Lockhart
CEO & Founder

10 QUOTES THAT INSPIRE PUTTING AN END TO HATE CRIME

 

 WE LOVE EVERYONE OF THESE

We wanted to share these positive comments by influential celebrities, are well thought out and we should give them the thought provoking thinking that they deserve. If you have, any others send them to us.

1. “Darkness cannot drive darkness; Light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; Love can do that.”– Martin Luther King (1963)
2. “No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”– Nelson Mandela (1994)
3. “Misunderstanding arising from ignorance breeds fear, and fear remains the greatest enemy of peace.”– Lester B. Pearson
4. “Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands?”– Ernest Gaine
5. “In the practice of tolerance, one’s enemy is the best teacher.”– The Dalai Lama
6. “Sometimes I wonder if I’m as famous for my wheelchair and disabilities as I am for my discoveries.”– Stephen Hawking
7. “Attacking people with disabilities is the lowest display of power I can think of.”– Morgan Freeman
8. “Don’t hate what you don’t understand.”–  John Lennon
9. “You cannot hate other people without hating yourself.”– Oprah Winfrey
10. "Where there is love there is life.” – Mahatma Gandhi

 

STOP THINKING HATE OR VIOLENCE, FOR A MORE MEANINGFUL LIFE.

 

 

Americans Need to Pay Attention to What Unites Us, and Finally Resolve What Divides Us

­Everything in the United States has become polarized – politics, religion, gender, race, identity. We’re segregated geographically, economically and ideologically among too many lines to count.

This is nothing new, and the tension, anger, and resentment that it causes (and that to various degrees has always been there), simmer and sometimes resurface, despite the best efforts by some to keep it under control. Often those least affected by it pretend the problem isn’t as bad as others make it out to be, and when it can’t be denied, those “others” always receive the blame. Too often though, those differences between us are not discussed or addressed rationally, but with a view of dehumanizing those who are different to a point of caricature. All sides do it to some extent or another, some more vocally or cruelly, but nobody wants to accept responsibility for their part in the cycle.

Politically, the sides seem to be formed into unbreakable battle lines. Democrats can’t work with Republicans, conservatives can’t be around liberals, those who don’t fall within those sides aren’t even worthy of a say. Various other groups pick sides, sometimes out of convenience and alliance more so than true belief. The sides vilify each other and reduce them to crude stereotypes – it is easier to criticize if those on the other side aren’t even seen as real people. It’s the poor versus the rich; racial and religious minorities against vocal subsets of the mainstream and majorities; gun owners opposed to any restrictions and those who seek reasonable limits; the LGBT community seeking rights and equality and those who demand traditional gender roles; those seeking more government involvement and support versus those seeking a small government that stays out of their lives (but can intervene in the lives of others as much as it wants). Every issue, ranging from those that define us to those that are merely a passing interest, are used as barriers to divide us, and the personal quickly becomes political. Largely, people want to surround themselves with those that make them comfortable, those who are the same, and not those that challenge their ideas. With these divisions, is it unsurprising that outside forces have been able to so easily penetrate and control our system? They have exploited existing prejudices and resentments to manipulate our beliefs further, stoking fear and hatred to more vocal and visible levels.

And through it all, nobody wants to accept fault for their own actions. It is always “other people” or “the other side” that is to blame. “They” are what is wrong with the country. And, it turns out, you’re right – “they” are what is wrong with the country… just like YOU are what is wrong! Because “they” think the same about “you” as you think about “them.” As long as that mentality continues on all sides, what chance do we have to figure out what is right about the country? Have you ever tried to get to know “them”? Sure, we all sort of have. There’s always “that one relative…” or “that one co-worker…” and “that friend from high school who according to social media has really changed…” and maybe even “that guy I sat next to on an airplane that one time.” But aside from passing pleasantries, or avoiding the complicated discussions for the sake of getting through a necessary dinner peacefully, do people really try to know each other?

You may notice there are plenty of similarities – these can include basic level things like interest in the same movies or sports teams, to bigger issues like the fact that we all want what’s best for our kids and our country, even if we just have different ideas of how to achieve that. Perhaps the biggest necessity if we want to turn “that person I met” into “that person who is truly important despite our differences,” is understanding and respect, not to mention communication. Understanding that asking for tolerance from others means respecting their dissenting opinion and giving them tolerance and understanding in return. Within most faiths (excepting extremist or fanatical groups, of which, sadly, all faiths have their own to deal with), most political ideologies, every ethnicity and each gender, each perspective and person has something that makes it worthy of being heard. This country is built on political rivalries and disagreements resulting in compromise, going back to the Founding Fathers – if they had agreed on everything then, we would have a much different, and possibly much weaker country than what we have. This system of debate and compromise shouldn’t need to be different now. Our similarities bring us together, but if we don’t let them tear us apart, embracing our differences could make us strong.

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Hate thoughts are real

I love this picture, its a great photograph of a beautiful woman, that has many thoughts, that mostly trigger or are caused by hateful thinking. She’s not wrong she is influenced by the increasing hate and violence, not only in the US bit around the World.

Never have we been more divided, because our leaders and those who will benefit from our divisions, have made it there agenda.

Social Media and the Main Stream Media, along with most politicians on all sides, Are trying to control our thoughts, “tell us what to think’. Instead of letting our educators,

Teach us “how to think”.

We don’t have to think hate and violence all the time, but is hard when you are constantly bombarded with personage attacks of Hate and violence. Very little news is ever good news, that makes you feel good, no money in that.

The rape word on this women’s cheek is a real thought, and concern for her, as it totally comes from a personal agenda for some perpetrators of Hate and violence, so does bullying.

We at NoHateNoViolnce believe the more respectful open debate and dialogue we can promote and have, the more we can lower hate thoughts for the worst offenders, the less Violence we may have.

We need to have and promote good thoughts, and not assume everyone we are looking at is having a bad thought, making us anxious and on edge to promote our Hate thoughts.

The more good thoughts we can have the happier we can be, regardless of you place in life.

“ GOOD THOUGHTS HAPPIER LIFE “

Shifting Our Attitude To Shift The World

The longer I live, the more I realize how much impact attitude has on people’s lives. A person’s attitude is more important than education. It’s more important than money, circumstances, failures, successes, appearance or skill. It’s especially more important than what others think, say or do. The attitude of everyone involved will make or break a company, a church, a home – or a country.

The change starts by shifting our focus. Once others start focusing on the issues instead of gossip and their own special interests, and listen the attitudes of the people will start to change. The silent majority will wake up, become proud of their actions and get involved in working to help everyone, not just themselves. In turn, our ’ attitudes will continue to shift, and they’ll start working harder to agree instead of disagree, at least debate ate a civil level. This cycle will continue, moving us and our country closer to actually fixing our problems, with workable solutions. We don’t need to agree, we need to listen and tolerate the opinions of others.

The remarkable thing is that this change, is something we, control as individuals, and can do every day. Everyday we have a choice regarding the attitude we embrace. We cannot change the past, nor the fact that other people will act or believe in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. But we can change our attitude. And we’re the only ones who can change it.

We at “NO HATE NO VIOLENCE” are convinced that life is 10 percent what happens to us and 90 percent how we react to it. So change how you react to all the things in this world we can, and you might just change the world itself. Hopefully, our leaders and influential people will lead us in this effort.

Anti Semitism Is All Our Problem.

Anti-semitism is everyone’s problem, it’s HATE and VIOLENCE at its worst. This article gives some interesting facts on the impact it is having on the American Jews. Though I don’t think the far right Republicans (who I generally don’t agree with) would be supportive of the Muslims and their antisemitism.

This is one of those areas that if you don’t say something when confronted with it, you are complicit, this needs to be put down like a Bully, all the time and as much as possible.

Read the article it’s enlightening

https://www.npr.org/2021/10/26/1049288223/1-in-4-american-jews-say-they-experienced-antisemitism-in-the-last-year

Let’s Rediscover Tolerance

We all need to move greater tolerance and more respectful listening to others into higher priority status in our lives. How many people are as happy as they used to be or want to be? We have way too much negative information driving us apart and making us angry, thanks to some of the new communication systems and the agendas of those who own and run them.

We need to be more open to people we don’t agree with and have greater tolerance for their comments. We need to listen and try to understand that these are the other person’s opinions, not our own. Attitude alone can do more for tolerance than anything else.

https://nohatenoviolence.com/shifting-our-attitude-to-shift-the-world-2/

If we do something good every day, even just a giving a smile or calling someone who needs support, we will become better, more tolerant, and happier people for doing it.

Lets look first for the good in each other. Lincoln said. “I hate that guy, I need to get to know him better.”

It works for me! I have found that when I made the effort to get to know someone on a personal basis who I thought I didn’t like, I found that we had more in common than not, and the dislike went away. Family’s always a good place to practice tolerance and listening. Pick someone you know in your family who you dislike for their ideas or opinions and try suggesting that you both need sit down and get to know each other better – because you’re family.

 

Our Warmest Holiday Wishes For All

At this time we are thinking of all the good people in this world, and all the good work that is being done, and we wish everyone a joyful and blessed holiday season and a safe and healthy new year.

CHANGING HOW WE LOOK AT THINGS WE THINK WE HATE WILL MAKE US HAPPIER

This article was first run in 2019, but we feel it’s even more relevant today. We’re sharing it again as a reminder of the power of positivity.

People who have hate and violence in their thinking are, by definition, unhappy.

By taking 5 minutes a day to think about how Shifting Our Attitude to Shift the World can change our lives forever allowing us to become happier no matter what our situation is.

SOME SIMPLE THINGS WE CAN DO FOR TODAY THAT WILL MAKE US HAPPIER

Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life problem at once.  

Just for today I will be happy.  This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”  Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals.

Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is and not try to adjust everything to my own desires.  I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit myself to them.

Just for today I will take care of my body.  I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.

Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways; I will do somebody a good term and not get found out.  I will do at least two things I don’t want to do, as William James suggests, just for exercise.

Just for today I will look at what I hate and ask why and how that helps me be happier.

Just for today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me.

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